The “pick me” girl has always existed in one form or another, you might recognize her as a proponent of the phrase “I’m not like other girls,” or for being “one of the boys.” This particular incarnation, often depicted as sinister and possibly prone to hair-twirling, originated on TikTok, a spoof of the Grey’s Anatomy scene where Meredith pleads that Derek “pick me, choose me, love me.” “Pick me” girls on TikTok essentially say misogynistic things, like how other girls are sluts and that the 19th amendment should be revoked, stuff like that, in order to identify with and be validated by men. The impulse to do so isn’t entirely their fault. Many cultures normalize and reward misogyny, and it can be difficult to separate yourself from cultural values even if they actively harm you. Then, not-“pick me” girls (“pick them” girls?) are, naturally, upset with “pick me” girls for putting women down. “Pick me” girls then get angry at detractors for being a bunch of dumb sluts, the wheel keeps turning.
And gaming is absolutely not immune to the eternal battle between “pick me” girls and … regular girls (???). In fact, it’s been a topic of many viral TikToks. User @lindseyszn, who makes TikToks on gaming and Discord culture, for example, often features a “pick me” character in her comedy videos. This one, where a “pick me” fights with fictional boy Alex’s girlfriend about being the person he Snapchats most often (kids these days!), has 1.1 million likes and 4.2 million views since it was posted on March 9. “This made my blood boil, my ex’s name was Alex,” one TikTok user commented.
Gamer “pick me” girls always want to be the only girl in their Discord server, they make fun of other girls for innocuous things like wearing pink, and cannot stand their fellow players’ girlfriends. Across the board, “pick me” girls kind of suck, but I also feel bad for them.
Source: Destructoid Nooo, don’t internalize misogyny, you’re too good at video games